Reminders of Mortality and… Argentina – November 15, 2024

A strange title, I know. I’m on my way to Buenos Aires to meet Robert my very good friend and travelling companion in Chile last year, now off on a new adventure in Argentina. But first a short digression.

2024 was and is a year book-marked by painful moments of loss. Is there a scale to measure loss and its impact? Should it be constrained because its source is not human?

We have been very lucky in the animals who have shared our lives, in our case, cats. Most recently, in 2010 the year I retired, when V presented me with 2 cats who were to be my companions in retirement, Harry, a Burmese and Toby, a Burmilla. From the beginning, and we are both long-time felineophiles with a life populated by many of their ilk, they were both, in very different ways, special. They were both raised by a breeder who did all the correct things, handled and socialized them, kept them indoors and ensured that they realized that they were social beings who had a responsibility to maintain an interesting conversation and put guests at their ease. They were not trained to do tricks, they were grown-ups and expected to be treated as such.

In the intervening 14 years they have both become very important parts of our lives, Harry, for me, in particular. Harry and I shared a bond that I have shared with few humans. Flawed souls that we all are, we both accepted and loved each other unreservedly, and we forgave each other absolutely for any transgressions. Harry sadly passed away on New Year’s Eve last year, a heart-breaking launch for 2024.

 Harry and Toby
Harry and Toby

Toby, much quieter and more reserved but equally loving became for V what Harry had become for me. Toby and Harry were also bosom friends and very dependent on each other, having come from the same breeder at the same time and having grown up in the same household. Our concern at the time was for the effect that Harry’s demise might have on Toby and this sadly proved to be prescient. I don’t think he was ever quite as happy on his own and seemed to begin a slow decline that unfortunately culminated on the eve of my departure, when he too died.

They will both be deeply missed and life will skip a beat.

In my next post I will return to our Argentina adventure

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7 responses to “Reminders of Mortality and… Argentina – November 15, 2024”

  1. R K M Avatar
    R K M

    That I should weep at the loss of Harry and now Toby is revelatory of something special about these wee beasties……

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    1. Gerald FitzGerald Avatar
      Gerald FitzGerald

      RKM, we will all miss them more than I can say, but you already know that.Thanks for the kind thoughts.Cheers,G

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  2. Maureen Donlevy Avatar
    Maureen Donlevy

    So sorry for your losses of special companions. A story beautifully told!Thanks Gerry,Maureen

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    1. Gerald FitzGerald Avatar
      Gerald FitzGerald

      Thanks for the kind thoughts Maureen, hard slugging the last couple of days but it has been harder on V.The boys were very special.CheersG

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  3. Marc Pearsall Avatar
    Marc Pearsall

    So sorry for your loss.Very much looking forward to your Argentine posts. One of our son in laws is currently in Buenos Aries and just posted a photo of an incredible steak dinner he had. I wish I there. Looked mouthwatering.Looking forward to your posts.Marc

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    1. Gerald FitzGerald Avatar
      Gerald FitzGerald

      Hi Marc, thanks for the condolences, they were a loss!We did not have much time in BA to enjoy the great grill restaurants but Hugh did feed us a fabulous grilled beef fillet the evening that we spent at his house.Looking forward to restos when I’m back in BA.CheersG

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  4. Joan McD Avatar
    Joan McD

    Gerry and Virginia so sad to hear of both losses. Reknown Nobel prize winner Albert Schweitzer once said “There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats.” So turn up the stereo and enjoy warm memories of your furry besties. Hope to see you in Tavira again. Keep wellJoan

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